"Growth begins with awareness but is realized in action"
Everything looked good on the surface but underneath we...
Lacked focus and direction in life
Had many unmet and unfulfilled dreams and goals
Felt tired, frustrated, overwhelmed
We lived with body image issues
Felt powerless to change
Felt like roommates instead of lovers
Felt lonely, disconnected & unhappy
Just wished someone would give us the answers
An extroverted adventurer, I have run the London Marathon, climbed Mount Kilimanjaro 2 times, skydived, traveled around the world and launched a new business, all after the age of 40. But my greatest adventure and challenge is marriage. As a goal setter and one who strives to achieve and conquer challenges from work to mountains, I have come to realize that the greatest and most fulfilling adventure we can take on is the challenge to build an EXTRAORDINARY marriage. About the time you think you have it figured out you hit the marathon wall or the mountain scree and are ready to throw in the towel. I’m so glad that I discovered what we now call the XtraO Factor and pressed on to Extraordinary! I’m privileged to “run” with my best friend, “climb” with my lover, and “workout” with my life partner.
An introverted bystander for most of our marriage, in 2017 I discovered the joy of no longer being a bystander and becoming fully engaged in life and love. I’m finding purpose as I become more involved. I started a blog, No Longer a Bystander, in March 2019, to share my journey from being a couch potato, content to stay home and watch tv, to a much more active person who enjoys the outdoors, running, working out and living life to its fullest with my extraordinary husband. Almost 60 and I am healthier than I have EVER been, have more purpose and direction, and am on a mission to help others live the second half of their life with more joy, excitement, passion, and purpose than the first half. I am excited to continue to develop an extraordinary marriage with Darrell, the love of my life, as we adventure through life together.
Our lives were not always eXtraOrdinary
Infidelity by both
19 moves in 34 years
Special needs adoption
Daughter a victim of human trafficking
Lived in separate states for over a year
autoimmune health issues
A painful story with eXtraOrdinary results
Marriage was falling apart, health was suffering and our life was lacking direction
Let's build that eXtraOrdinary Life you have been dreaming of
Wish You Could Lose Weight & Keep It Off?
Self Conscious About Your Body Image?
Has Your Self Confidence Been Shaken?
Discover tools and strategies to bridge the gap between your mind, habits and permanent weight loss
Discover how to redefine your relationship with you, and develop consistent self love and self respect.
Discover tools and strategies to develop unshakable confidence
Lack Focus, Direction, Purpose and Meaning?
Bad Habits Stopping You From Being Your Best?
Feeling stuck and afraid
Get clear about what you want, why you want it, what keeps you from it, so you can create a path to a future that inspires and motivates you to achieve it.
Discover the connections between your mind, your subconscious patterns, and the actions that result and how to break and make habits
Learn how to move forward making strong confident decisions and taking massive action
Discover tools and strategies to transform all of your relationships no matter what has happened in the past - especially your relationship with you.
Lack Self Care?
Understand the true source of overwhelm and develop strategies so you can stop spinning your wheels and get more done
Cultivate consistent and effective self-care and become your best self able to contribute from your overflow
What if you believed the best was yet to come?
The problem is you don't really believe that do you? Most of us can’t even imagine this because of our deep negative beliefs about aging; we don’t believe that OLDER could be better than YOUNGER…and what happens in the future could be better than the past. This mindset is a big disconnect for many of us midlifers!
You want to change but don’t know what to do or how to get there.
We work with amazing midlifers, like you. We'll help you bust out of your midlife funk, figure out what you want and make changes to create an eXtraOrdinary life that brings great, energy, joy and excitement to your life.