Wedding Vow Exercise
Vows are promises we make and too often promises we break. Oftentimes vows are broken because we have not spent time intentionally thinking about how we will strategically live them out. We somehow think that we will just naturally be cherishing when things are difficult. Or that we will just naturally only have eyes for our spouse when we live in a world that uses sex to sell. For more on the significance of vows click here.
This exercise builds endurance and the ability to have a long-lasting extraordinary marriage. Endurance is learning to navigate the stages of life to overcome the challenges and transitions as the marriage grows and changes.
How do you live out your vows? First, you have to know what they are. Did you use traditional vows at your wedding or did you write your own? Follow these steps to strengthen your marriage and build endurance.
Print out your vows so you can read them (if you can’t find your vows or don’t remember what you said, use these traditional vows).
Commit to reading your vows every day for 30 days. You might post them on a wall or your bathroom mirror. Or keep a digital copy on your phone for handy reference. Or maybe make them a screen saver.
Make a decision that you will unconditionally live your vows every day.
Verbally make a fresh promise to your spouse of your commitment to these vows.
Choose a specific part of your vows to put into practice in everyday life (for example: Let’s say you want to focus on cherishing your spouse. Do something every day to show your spouse you cherish them like making them breakfast or fixing their coffee just the way they like it or looking into their eyes when they talk to you). For more on “Cherishing your Spouse” click here.
Repeat reps daily.
Vows are promises we make and too often promises we break. Oftentimes vows are broken because we have not spent time intentionally thinking about how we will strategically live them out. ~Darrell MacLearn